Mother’s Day, Father’s Day & The Child!

There has been a Whatsapp message floating around for a few days now which is directed towards mothers, who while staying with their kid(s) have alienated the father of the child or her husband away from the kid(s).
They have been able to alienate the fathers from their children with the help of Indian judicial system and prevailing laws, accusing their husbands with false domestic violence, dowry or other offences made available to them by laws heavily biased against men.
Most of them have misused the provisions of laws, simply because they exist, or just because it is very easy to get rid of the man they have begun to dislike or the person who they think they don’t need anymore, having got the child from him, using his sperms.

And they have been invariably successful and how!

Although as per the law, the father is the natural and first guardian of his child, these unscrupulous women have successfully been able to dodge the kids’ fathers away leading to parental alienation, that is taking a toll not just on the child stuck in the muddle, but also the child’s father.

Many accuse the father of a molestation, rape or violence when such a father attempts to meet his children during such disputes.
Fathers who face such situations are made to face more litigation in courts, which becomes mentally and financially taxing on him and his survival.
At times a restriction order is put up against the man disallowing him to enter his own home, which is the occupied by his wife who facilitates free willful entry for her paramours.

Options for him which already were limited, are reduced further. He applies and waits for a court order for visitation rights or his basic right to have access to his child, which he is often denied due to the complexity of legal procedure the judiciary follows.

Many are forced give up the thought of meeting or seeing their children forever!

The deep pain such a man suffers – as he is stopped to meet, see or even know about his child’s well being – leads to a life full of irritability, frustration, anguish, unhappiness and depression.

At a broader level, such parental alienation – which statistics have confirmed impacts such unlucky fathers much more than it affects these privileged women – leaves deep psychological scars on the child, the father and even the mothers misusing such provisions to alienate fathers. In other words the entire family and thus society gets impacted, who begin to perceive things negatively creating more and more unrest amongst themselves.

In such a situation or circumstances, such alienated fathers, in desperation and with a unfailing hope, seek to newer and newer ways to connect with their lost child again.

Hopes of meeting children increase with occasions – like summer vacation, fathers day, children’s day, festive seasons like Diwali, Eid, Christmas!

This year too i.e. at the onset of summer vacations 2016, such fathers have been trying hard to get a glimpse of their child.
They know that it is 7th May today and tomorrow is 8th May, when the world will celebrate “Mother’s Day”!
They know that their child needs a mother. But they also know that the child needs their father as well!
It will soon be 19th June 2016, which will be Father’s Day!
And they want to be with their child and be together for ever!

This year they have devised a new means of floating a message on WhatsApp, almost pleading their wives to be a good mom and let her children and their fathers meet each!

I leave you all with this message that says it all!

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‘Protecting women does not mean punishing men’ says Arnab

He is right when he says that no one understands a man’s pain. In fact we all are programmed not to.

A man loses dignity, respect, honor, becomes a subject of gossips, unnecessary discussions, looked down upon, his entire world comes crashing down when he is falsely accused in a rape / anti-dowry case, especially in a society that disregards man’s suffering and desensitizes his pains.

There is no trace of the woman who ruins the man’s life in such a way and she usually walks off scot-free at times appreciated like a martyr.

The system that we all Indians have made needs a massive overhaul!

Please watch the video and share it as much as you can.

‘Protecting women does not mean punishing men’:
http://youtu.be/jSUaEKRztcQ

Arnab Ganguly is one of the leading Men’s Rights Activist from India.
He was interviewed by Kartikey Sehgal during the National Conference for Men, held in India in 2015.

National Conference for Men in India is held on the Independence Day every year where hundreds of MRAs from across the nation participate. The conference aims to bring in a positive change in the Indian society, including judiciary, in order to treat men and women on par with each other.

Why do men become more attractive as they age?

Answer by Gaurav Satle:

With Modernity and Feminism air getting thicker and thicker, women have got the choice to either go out & earn a livelihood, buy a house of their own, complete their living independent of everyone else, including her partner, OR simply stay at home, not do anything at all – including cooking and caretaking (these days professionals are hired for cooking, baby sitting and almost everything now) – with an option to be completely dependent on men for shelter, providing resources (read money) for food and everything else.

Modernity hasn’t given this choice to a man – who continues to be forced (with gender biased laws & perceptions/beliefs of the society) with the responsibilities for providing, protecting and being solely responsible for a providing resources to a child’s future, growth & development, inspite of the fact that the child came into existence due to an act of sex for which a man & woman are responsible equally, and regardless of the fact whether the female partner in such case is earning or not. This is usually termed as a ‘moral’ responsibility of a man, atleast in our part of the world (India). Men are usually disposed off when a woman gets a child from him as he is bound to provide a place of residence which she calls ‘her’ home and an alimony or monthly maintenance which she could call her ‘earnings’.

Thus a successful man’s wealth and resources (investments & property) which increases in magnitude with time is the main reason why a man is often considered more attractive with age as compared to a woman.

A not so successful man isnt considered to be as attactive.

Thus its always the ‘alpha-male’ that rule & win over ‘beta-males’ that follow who are forgotten with time.

Why do men become more attractive as they age?

Nod Ok Please!

Just a nod of the head at the end! And everything is accepted, considered normal & forgotten!

To know what this post is talking about please watch this video titled “HORN OK PLEASE”. It links to facebook a post uploaded on Radio Kantho fan page. At the time of this post, this video had already gone viral and had nearly a million views and thousands of likes and shares!

Horn Ok Please

In this video a city girl is honked at a few times as she walks by a scooter. As she turns back a couple of times in opposition to being ‘eve-teased’, the honking stops. No sooner than she continues to walk ahead, the honking starts again. Outraged by this she returns towards the two-wheeler and slaps the man on the two-wheeler, not once but twice. As she turns away and the honking continues, she retreats again to confront the man once more. Much to her surprise, she finds a small child behind the handle of the scooter innocently playing with the horn. Concluding that it wasn’t the man’s antics but the child’s play and guilty that she unnecessarily hit the man, she turns away with a sorry face not to return again! The gentleman, undone by the circumstance, nods and accepts her visual apology. The video ends.

This thought provoking video leads us to some clear inferences:

  1. Honking while a woman is passing by can be easily misunderstood as eve-teasing and stalking, especially when the driver of the vehicle is a man.
  2. The revengeful and violent act of the girl depicts the socially accepted norm of seeking instant refutation.
  3. Lack of attempt to lodge a police complaint suggests no belief or faith in nation’s judiciary or the mechanism to seek justice.
  4. Women usually falsely believe men are born criminals and treat even the greatest of gentlemen as criminals.
  5. Even after committing a violent act, women believe that they can get away with a mere apology.
  6. Men don’t protest when they are victimized by women. In fact they are quick to put such incidents behind their back and quick to accept an apology. Men are more forgiving in nature.
  7. Lack of CCTV, eyewitness or a godsend like the child in this video combined with false allegations by women on men, misandrist attitude of society and judiciary can label the man as a criminal forever.

Men Objectifying Women: Is It Really So?

There have been several thoughts floating around in the society that men objectify women or treat a woman’s body as a sex object. People who believe in this usually have a very strong sense of perception and belief.

This post is to bring to the attention of all such individuals to a true incident where a woman, in quest of her dream job of a new presenter, went to the extent of exposing her cleavage in front of the camera. The story has gone viral as per the below link.

Woman’s Story Goes Viral After She Cunningly Lands Dream Job

She also doesn’t seem to have resentment of any kind for the way he pursued her job. On the contrary she further justifies her act saying that she was trying to do ‘something different’ in order get her dream job!

Here is what she quoted as per the website

“It was obvious that if I wanted to make it I had to be brave and offer something different. I checked first with my parents and when I found that they also supported me in my decision, it wasn’t a problem for me to go ahead like this. I simply found a way to put myself ahead and also to ensure that my channel gets the best ratings.”

This is not an isolated incident. There have been several instances where a woman willingly and voluntarily indulges in objectifying her own body in order to achieve something.

This leaves us with some food for thought:

Is it really the man who objectifies a woman?

Why is the man solely to be blamed for objectification of a woman?

Aren’t men easy targets of such blame games?

Don’t we jump the gun too often?

Doesn’t this require a deeper understanding or analysis?